Our Asian mentality is that we put fear in our kids, in our brains there is only fear of getting Punishment. And Some Parents only give the concept of Fear from Allah to their children, and Sometimes they misuse it. Like beta Soh jao Allah ta’ala khafa ho jaen ge, Beta yea na kro, Beta school ni jao ge ge tu Allah Naraz ho jaen ge, phr Allah saza den ge. Etc.
and growing up to this the individual may go farther from his Deen, He can only think That Allah just wants to put him in hell, he just wants to punish him. Allah loves to punish us.
Like one Lady came to Nouman Ali khan and she said “Why Allah talks about Hell in such a Scary way in Quran, why does he even describe it. Does he love to Punish us ? ” Noman Ali khan says, isn’t it a mercy of Allah that he told us that there is also a Hellfire so that we can save ourselves from it, if None of knew there is a Hellfire probably all of us would end up in Jahanam, But Mercy of Allah that he warned us before we could enter into Jahanam.
Even this is the mercy of Allah that our Quran talks about Jahanam in detail and in a graphic way. Which no other scriptures talk about, The Jewish scripture they removed the concept of Jahanam from their txts and they live on the concept that even if they go to jahanam they will go temporary.
And the concept of Mercy of Allah in Islam is very broad. Very wide than all the other religions, In fact the God of Islam is most merciful and Forgiving than all other religions.
Yes we should fear Allah, It is a Good thing, like he describes in Quran Surah Al-Imran Surah no 3 verse no 102 “ Fear Allah as he should be feared and do not die except as a Muslim”
another place he describes
[Hud said] “So fear Allah, keep your duty to Him, and obey me.”
Yes we should fear Allah, but he wants to us to acknowledge the fact that he is Merciful. This is the reason in Quran the 1st verse he says “ In the Name of Allah the most merciful and Beneficent.” In the 1st chapter, it says “Allah is Merciful and Forgiving “and then it says the “Owner of the day of the recompense.”Allah choses the Arabic language, and choses the word “Rahma ” To describe his Mercy, the word Rahma in Arabic means the Womb of mother, like Mercy of Mother is so great that When the baby is in her womb she takes care of him. And Allah describes his Mercy 70 times greater than the mercy of a Mother .
Even our purpose of Existence is the Justification of Mercy of Allah. Allah created us to Show that he is Merciful. He had Angels to worship him, Who never sins. He created the Jinkind who lived far before us on this earth. They Sinned and Never seek the repentance of Allah. So Allah Wiped them away. Allah made Adam and Mankind, with the nature to Sin. But he taughted the Adam how to seek repentence, and He Forgave him. So through us the name of Allah “ Ar-Rahim, Ar-Ghafoor ” were displayed.
Allah is so merciful that he made home for every mankind, from the birth of Adam to the last human on this earth, in Jannatul firdus the best of the heavens, near his throne beaneath it. Because he wants all of us to join him and join the pleasures of Jannah.
The central idea of all our Worships is to seek Allah forgiveness, Like Praying 5 times a day your sins will be wiped away like a person bathing 5 times in a river, Making ablution wipes away your sins, fast in the month of Ramzan in which we seek Allah forgiveness, Perform hajj and all your previous sins will be forgiven and you will become like a newly born baby etc.And there is a hadith that, Let no man think he can attain jannah on the basis of his deeds, the companions asked the prophet even you Prophet Pbuh ? Prophet Mohammad S.A.W said yes even me. Even I will go to Jannah on the basis of the mercy of Allah, not on the Basis of the Deeds.
In Quran when you read Jannah,Most of times near it you will be finding forgiveness, the mercy of Allah S.W.T
Prophet Mohammad Pbuh said, All sons of Adam are the Sinners, but best of them are those who repent. Which I usually say as “ All of us are sinners, but those are repent are the Winners”.
ibne khatir is known for his tafseer of the Quran and he was a Muhadith as well. He shares the hadith in his tafseer, that once Adam A.S asked Allah, oh lord didn’t you made me from your own hands, Allah said Yes I did, He then asked, didn’t you breathe your soul into me ? Allah said yes, He said, then, didn’t you say May your mercy be upon me when I sneezed, Allah said yes, He said when you placed me in Jannah, didn’t you know im going to sin,going to disobey you and He said Yes. And he said and then will you forgive me and again place me into jannah ? Allah said yes.
When The slave of Allah sins,Allah S.W.T Commands his angels to not to write it down for 6 hours, in which if he seeks Forgiveness, it will be like he never commited that Sin. And even if he doesn’t repent in those 6 hours and repent later, Allah is All forgiving.
So turn back to your Allah, We still got time, the Doors of Touba are opened for us till our last breath. Allah is waiting for us to come back to him, repent to him.
And Never be despair of the Mercy of Allah.
the mercy of Allah is so huge that he says in a hadith “ My mercy prevails over my wrath” .